Olympic wedding proposal – awkward or romantic?

I can’t stop thinking about the proposal made by Qin Kai in front of a global TV audience to Chinese diver He Zi just after she received her silver medal. I just can’t decide whether the moment was awkward or just down right romantic and well thought out.

The reason why I think it’s awkward, or rather an inappropriate time is because it was her moment. It’s an honour to take part in the Olympics and she had just won a silver medal. Quite a bit feat I reckon. And to have that taken away by someone who’s asking you to make one of the biggest decisions of your life – what could you label that? Is it selfish? Arrogant? Balsy? Or just plain romantic?

Kai knew the whole world would be watching and it would certainly have been a devastating blow had she said ‘no’. So he was either confident or brave. But at the back of his mind, or just for a moment he must have had some fleeting doubt. I know that this is a possibility cause my husband said he had the same thoughts when he proposed to me.

Then I can’t help but wonder if this proposal was in fact a genius moment on his part. I mean, you’d have some of the best photographers in the world capturing the moment. It would be on TV too of course so the event would be recorded for free. It’s a talking point which will no doubt be talked about among his friends and family for generations to come (she said yes of course).

So the advantage to proposing in such a memorable and public way is that the event is forever documented in the best way possible. And the fact that she said yes – an absolute bonus. So if you’re thinking of proposing to your partner and feel confident that he or she will say yes – why not take a special event and use that as your platform to declare your love? That is if your partner will find it endearing rather  than you simply raining on their parade.

Flexibilty could reduce the cost of your honeymoon

If you’ve blown the budget on your wedding ceremony and now need to cut costs on your honeymoon you should consider being completely spontaneous and bag deals and flights as the opportunity arises. That way you could save yourself hundreds, if not thousands, of Rands or in any currency for that matter.

Take for example the FlySafair R2 flight deal, which is on promotion just for today (23 June 2016) offered by a South African airline. The promotion is a steal if you a) have the patience to ‘sit’ in the online waiting room and watch the countdown till you can land on the home page and can book your discounted tickets b) have the flexibility to fly any time before the 30 September 2016 and c) don’t care where you travel – as long as it’s for R2.

If money is tight – honeymoon from scratch. It may go against every ounce of your being but bagging such a massive deal could reduce the financial burden on your marriage – particularly if you are in debt already from borrowing money to pay for the marriage ceremony and celebrations itself.

Too many people start married life in debt. According to Money Magazine, 70% of married couples argue about money ahead of fights about household chores, togetherness, sex, snoring and what’s for dinner.

So while booking a flight off the cuff and then creating a honeymoon ‘from scratch’ may not sound like the most romantic thing to do, a bit of spontaneity to save you some money could, in fact, do your marriage some good in the long term.

But whatever you do, make sure that when you make a booking (of any kind) that you read the terms and conditions carefully before making your purchase. Weddings from Scratch is by no way advocating that you just make blind purchases without knowing exactly what it is you are buying and what the rules are. Too often, deals are just too good to be true. So make sure that a) you are buying from a reputable company and b) that their terms and conditions suit you.

Take again the FlySafair deal. It too comes with small print. What you should take note of are things like the following:

  • Bookings are made on a first come, first serve basis.
  • The promotion is only available on new bookings and a maximum of ten seats can be booked.
  • You can only book through the website. The deal is, for example, not available though it’s call centre.
  • The R2 fare includes airport taxes and 7kgs of free carry on luggage. So if you’re planning on taking a lot of stuff with you on your honeymoon be prepared to pay extra for it.
  • Extras like car rental, pre-selected seating, insurance, priority boarding, upgrades are excluded.
  • You have to fly before 30 September 2016.

For more on the terms and conditions, click here.

Ultimately, if you want bag a bargain on anything from flights, restaurant bookings, wedding ceremonies, flowers and anything else wedding related you might need to be flexible. However, being flexible doesn’t mean you need to miss out. If you are making savings in one area it means you can pay more for something else to make the trip more luxurious – if that’s what you are after.

So while you may not land yourself an exotic flight to Mauritius for your honeymoon you can take your spouse out for a five course dinner during your honeymoon to make up for it! That is, of course, if you can afford to.